Between LOVE and “Real” Love

I spend a lot of time in my modest workplace thinking about “big” subjects. Today, I’ve decided to discuss the most extensively utilized theme in writings from East to West: Love.

This topic does not end at geographical or even temporal borders, whether you live in the United States, Lebanon, Italy, Congo, etc.

“TREMG”, which is continually looking for the missing notion of humanity in our day, seemed to me to be the greatest place to share even a few of my morning thoughts and views.

In this piece, I wanted to focus on trends in thoughts circulating in books or on the Internet, rather than the fiction that I like.

If you google “what is love?” “What is Real love?” “how do I know that she/he loves me?” or “how long does love endure?”etc. you will get a plethora of articles that are devoid of consumerist content and superficially identical to one another.

The contrast highlighted between love and true love is significant. Have you ever been told by a fruit vendor that this is an apple and that this is a real apple? Is it the knowledge that tells you this is a heart and it’s a genuine heart?

We assumed it meant the artificial heart when differentiation was set between the two. Is it necessary to distinguish between manufactured and true love? What if the so-called fake love isn’t love in the first place, but rather a carrier of it?

Because the subject is far too big to be covered in a single post, I’ll limit myself to a few controversial points here.

While I was surfing the internet out of bugs, it occurred to me that a loving partner will:

  • constantly pay attention to you
  • be pleased with you
  • always think you’re lovely
  • treat you as though you’re the most important person in his life
  • fantasize about a future with you
  • When he is joyful or sad, he needs you
  • not make you feel obligated to wait or apologize
  • Do not hold grudges against you for long
  • Being with him makes you joyful and special

I am not here to confirm or reject this information.

It’s only one of the most prevalent replies on the Internet, and it satisfies a huge number of individuals who are seeking concrete evidence to help them solve their problems, similar to an investigation.

If we consider “real” love to be condensed to these elements, we might infer that phony or manufactured love is what contradicts the preceding.

As a result, the spouse who is carrying false love:

  • doesn’t listen to you
  • is not pleased with you
  • has no aspirations for a future with you…etc.

These responses do not persuade me. Attempting to purposefully or inadvertently mislead people (the herd policy) is currently in the first position.

First, if some features abbreviate real love, so what if we add to it, for example, negative qualities, does it remain real or become fake?

Which category would you place this love in if your significant other makes you feel secure and that you are the most important person in his life, but does not listen to you, for example?

Do you believe you’ll be able to come up with a compelling response?

We may demolish those beneficial outcomes if only benefits are introduced when we focus on classifying love via its results, and this does not perish with reasoning.

Is there still love between you if your partner throws flowers at you every day for six years and then decides to throw stones at you for two months (and will probably kill you) ? No.

How can a notion that can’t be measured in the first place be a measure? How can we be sure of anything if the evidence isn’t restricted to the past or present?

It’s as if you think a tree that blossoms in the spring is lovely, but it’s unattractive when it loses its leaves in the winter. As a result, you don’t really care about the tree and are just interested in the outcome.

The same may be said of love. All of our sorrows and tears shed in the name of love stem mainly from our ignorance. Yes, even love necessitates self-awareness.

We eat the smack harder the more we cling to a type and cultivate our affection for it. How can you yearn to comprehend a foreign soul if you don’t even know yourself?

I do not want to dwell on this topic, which is a complex one that a whole year cannot do justice to. What I mean is, rather than focusing on outcomes that may change from day to day, why not try looking at love through other lenses? If I wanted to assess someone based on their “strengths” or “weaknesses,” I would leave and walk away.

Love is the most complicated topic since it is a science that involves both the heart and the head.Who doesn’t recall a game he adored and continued to like even after it was broken? Why do children cry when their toy is taken away? Because youngsters love true.

Is there a difference between love and true love? This is a question that will never be answered.

Moreover, I believe that if you like your house, you’ll keep like it even if the stones change color. You adore the tree no matter what season it is. You cherish your family or your loved ones regardless of where they live.

You will not stop loving your child if he/she is unwell, and even if you are opposed to education, you will continue to love them if they thrive in their knowledge. Whatever happens, you’ll never be able to stop loving them.

The tree’s hollow may be decaying, but it has a lovely aspect. This is difficult for us to recognize. We can tie love to its consequences, which may appear fantastic if we can’t restrict love to an idea. It is not a good idea to construct a home on a property that you do not own.

Love is what you give. Giving is your land, but land ownership isn’t enough; you can’t love if you can’t sacrifice. Isn’t it better to share the fruits of your land than to delude yourself into believing that you own the other person or the repercussions of their actions?

Sometimes we treat the sea as if we were attempting to keep the number of waves on our shores to a minimum. But If we can’t control the outcome, we can prevent love from being shortened by some outcomes that cause us pain. No one has the power to take away what you provide.

“Love provides nothing but itself,” observed the renowned writer Khalil Gibran. “Love just takes what it needs. Love has nothing and doesn’t want anybody else to have it, for love is adequate in itself.”

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2 Comments Leave a comment

  1. The best way to learn what true love is, is to experience love yourself. Whether it’d be through a hobby that keeps you looking forward to the next day or a person you can’t be away from because of how great they make you feel. There’s only so much you can learn about love if you only listen to what other people have to say about it.

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