Am I Settling?

When I was growing up I was never someone who envisioned how their life would turn out. Sure, I had plans, like for my career and where I might end up with it. But when it came to love, there was never a clear vision; everything sort of seemed foggy. I always wanted to be…

First Day of FALL-ing in Love!

By Tolanda Monique posted September 22, 2020 It is the first day of Fall, which means cooler weather, shorter days, longer nights, and air conditioning converting to heat. Single people dread the Fall season, and couples are a thrill. Some people hate the cold, and others adore the 60-degree weather and below. As the leaves…

Life Coaching-50 Ways to Make Money

“You have to attend this leadership seminar! It’s the last session of five but you’ll love it. It will change your life! Before the meeting, prepare a list of fifty ways you could make money.” Great. These days I felt as if I had enough homework between my financial work, spiritual wellness business and writng….

For Us Nation, Non-Profit Lead By Two Black Activist Is Planning A Virtual Meet Up, In Honor Of Suicide Prevention Month – Seeking Performers

The duo runs a weekly show titled, Church On Sundayz, that they stream via Stationhead App. It is a great tool for young creators to add music, talk, and hashtags to their auditory content. Download the app and stream their latest episodes below. http://share.stationhead.com/pd1W1sm0Wqw Let’s take a mental health self care day. Reflect on our…

World’s longest sea beach

Cox’s bazar is termed as the world’s longest unbroken sea beach. The sea beach has a length of incredible 132 km. It acquires it’s current name from Hiram Cox who happened to be a superintendent of Palonkee outpost in the British East India Company. He rehabilitated refugees in order to accomplish his mission to deal…

The Easiest Way to Lose Weight without a Diet

Many of Us Struggle to Lose Weight With fast food dining and delivery being the cheapest and easiest way to get something to eat, it is hard to focus on a more home cooked meal when everything is on the go. Some people have trouble with self-control, others may be on the right track but…

Gray Beauty

It’s easy to feel inspired by color, it’s easy to feel some sense of emotion brought on by vibrancy. Most of the time in life, we tend to see things as one way or the other: black and white, good and bad, law and order. We learn early that there aren’t really shades to living….

It’s Time to Put an End to Body Shaming

We see it happen all the time. You can be scrolling through your phone and come across a picture of someone you don’t even know. You think to yourself, “This person looks so great and confident.” But the comments are a whole other story. Just the first few you see are enough for you to…

5 True Dating Deal Breakers For Women

There are times that there are true reasons to really end a relationship. These days people will find any reason to break up and move on to the next. He doesn’t watch the same TV shows, he is too darn nice,he calls his mother four times a week. I had one girlfriend that stopped talking…

Buy Black: Tame the Curls and Fro

Posted by Tolanda Monique on September 15, 2020 As a woman dealing with natural hair since grade school at the age of 13, there were a lot of products that I went through to attempt to make my hair grow beautiful in its natural state. Natural hair comes in different curl patterns, length, and texture,…

The New Moon of Virgo

Astrological Themes Late September 2020 We have a new Moon at twenty four degrees of Virgo, and Jupiter has gone direct, moving forward again after a period of about four months. I’ll take the time to break down what this represents for us in the coming weeks. Suffice it to say, you should get your…

Disabled People Have Sex Too

There is a common misconception among able-bodied society that people with disabilities are asexual. This falsehood stems from a series of inaccurate stereotypes society has of the disabled which has been perpetuated by lack of representation in the media. It is true that on average people with disabilities have sex less than those without a…

Shut up, God!

When we say Shut up, God! We are like a dog returning to its vomit. Going back to our sinful lifestyles

The Social Dilemma, or How to Lose at Life

The 2020 Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, directed by Jeff Orlowski, peels back the shiny surface of social media to reveal the gurgling pits of despair it stashes away behind our unsuspecting eyes. Much like Black Mirror (2011), the horror of the reality it presents is just that – the actual, believable reality. By focusing…

Defeat vs. Plateau

How can we tell the difference between one or the other? Is there a difference? Stating the obvious here but, 2020 has been nothing but ridiculous ups and downs all year. This one year has somehow mentally and emotionally seemed like five have passed. And yet, there are so many people out there, myself included,…

Tiger parenting WILL put a negative impact on your child’s mental health

Yale Law School professor introduced us to the term ‘Tiger parenting’in 2011 in her memoir “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” and the outlook on toxic strict parenting has never been the same ever since even though tiger parenting has been existing since forever in brown families and other Asian families. It’s so normalized in…

“Apocalyptic” Acceptance

Here’s the thing about most apocalypse movies, they’re all a metaphor for the most extreme unknowns in life. Zombie movies, there’s death sprinkled with reminders that maybe it’s not truly an end for us, albeit a traumatic way to remind us with flesh and brain eating undead. End of days movies, like “I Am Legend”,…

8 Signs That You Are The Sidechick!

We never want to be her. We will spend many girl nights out talking about her. How can she tear up a family like that? He is married for goodness sake! The side chick. The clean up woman. The homewrecker. We all have had these conversations about these cruel, heartless women who knowingly date men…